User blog comment:Pbrfilly/Christian Rape Victim/@comment-35257950-20130818140032/@comment-4876397-20130819000028

Thank you for the reply, but I don't think this would be a good article for her. I'm not subscribed so I couldn't finish it, but this one was more of a movie-style rape. Most aren't that dramatic of a story to tell. I'm a cop so I deal with this a lot, and very few involve an actual weapon or a stranger. Most of the time it is someone they know and trust. For my friend, it was her boyfriend she'd been with for 9 months and had known most of her life. Her family and friends (including me) didn't like the guy but we'd never even considered something like this. It even took me a while to convince her she was raped. She just blamed herself at first and I went with that too initially. I thought she was upset about the choice she made - losing her virginity after waiting this long. I wasn't there so if she thought she just made a bad choice, I figured that's probably what happened.

It wasn't until I saw the radical change in her that I started asking questions. She started drinking and partying and got kind of promiscuous. Most people wouldn't have called her promiscuous but compared to how she used to be, she was. At first she was overly friendly with all the guys and would dance and dress inappropriately. She eventually had a one night stand. That was a couple years ago. She recently told me about it and that she didn't do it again because the next day she felt like she raped herself! I can't imagine she'll ever get married. Her two big experiences with men are getting raped and having a one night stand. She's 28 now and has never been in a serious relationship, except of course with the guy that raped her. She's afraid she'll be alone forever because she doesn't know how to act around men or anyone really. She withdrew after the rape and now she is awkward is any social situation, which is so sad because she used to be bubbly and always had a smile on her face. She was always putting smiles on other people's faces too, especially mine.

It just isn't right. That bastard doesn't have the right to steal her whole life, but that's what he's doing.